Soulmate A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet – a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, intense and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, bringing a sense of peace, calm, and happiness when you are around them. The relationship is a beautiful gift from God. However, there may be some flaws in it. One of the significant flaws that can happen is a lack of trust.
A relationship without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere.
Let us see what happens in a relationship that doesn’t involve trust.
- Lack of respect: Usually, when you respect the person, you can trust them because you know their values and respect them. Ultimately, if you don’t have trust over someone, that also means there’s a lack of respect. There’s a lack of respect that the person can do certain things which may hurt you or lacks values.
- Lack of personal space: when you don’t trust the person, you will always question where they are, what they are doing, who they are with. You will doubt what they do in the time when they are not with you. This will ultimately lead to calling them multiple times to figure out where they are; it may even lead to toxicity and stalking. And of course, there will be a lack of space.
For example, if you have no trust in your partner and if your partner goes out with a female friend, you will implement restrictions on them. This type of behavior can turn toxic and obsessive.
- Insecurities buildup: you may doubt yourself whether you are good enough for the person. You may doubt the person if they are cheating on you or anything. You will end up having low self-esteem.
- Baggage in the following relationship: now that because of your previous relationship, you have trust issues that will give you a lot of baggage as you will doubt the other person. You will look for constant patterns in their behavior and seek validation and attention. A therapist would quote that you have abandonment issues. All of this sounds very harsh.
Trust is an essential part of any relationship, but as I said, if you have any problems with your partner, then you should always try to mend them rather than keeping them with yourself. You can take individual therapy or couples therapy because you don’t trust the other person may be based on their factors. If they don’t make you feel good or act shady, then it’s apparent that you cannot build up trust. A qualified therapist will take up all these issues. All the best!